First ever yg lesson I taught!

Hey, so I decided to post the first ever lesson I taught for Mk and Friends youthgroup. =) Kinda a momentious thing for me... haha. =) Idk. Anyway, yah, this is what I taught the girls for split sessions, Friday the 18th, Febuary 2011.

Overview from Jenna’s lesson.

Reasons why we want to date and verses that show how God can fulfill those desires better than any man can.

Love

Psalm 86:15 “But you, O Lord, are a compassionate

and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness.”

Belonging

Ephesians 1:5 “In love he predestined us to be adopted

as his sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will.”

Security (constant)

Psalm 36:7 “How priceless is Your unfailing love! Both

high and low among men find refuge in the shadow of Your wings.”

Status

Romans 8:16-18 “The Spirit himself testifies with our

spirit that we are God's children. 17Now if we are children, then we are heirs—heirs

of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we

may also share in his glory. 18I consider that our present sufferings are not worth

comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.”

Pursued

Luke 19:10 “For the Son of Man came to seek and to save what was lost."

Affection

Zephaniah 3:17 “The LORD your God is with you, he is

mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he

will rejoice over you with singing."

Lust

1 Thessalonians 4:4-6 “That each of you should learn to

control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like

the heathen, who do not know God;”

What is important on this earth is building a relationship with GOD,

because that is the only relationship that will LAST and FULFILL your

hearts desire for ETERNITY.

God is the only thing that lasts—here and there.

If our relationship with God is the most important thing, then we need to be sure

to put our lives in positions to where we can most LEARN, GROW, and FALL IN

LOVE with our Savior.

Angie’s  Notes

Proverbs 19:22
What a person desires is unfailing love;
better to be poor than a liar.

When Jenna taught this lesson, her point was that you should pursue God first. We desire unfailing love, and God is the only one who can provide it.

     Lamentations 3:32
    Though he brings grief, he will show compassion,
    so great is his unfailing love.

So does this mean that we shouldn’t want to have a relationship with a guy? No, we were created first for God, but we were also created to be a helpmate to a man.

Genesis 2:20-22

 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh.  Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

But we should have godly relationships, glorifying to God. How can we do that? Well, to start off, if we are not in a relationship or even if we are, we should start by building a solid foundation. The Bible does address how a wife and a husband should act, and also how young women and young men should act.

Now the purpose of dating is marriage, so my advice would be to start by not dating until you are ready to get married. But if you are looking to be ready to date in a way that glorifies God, I suggest start by laying a foundation. The basis of any foundation should be God. Start with that. Then add onto it godly qualities and lay a foundation of maturity in God.

Modesty – 1 Timothy 2:9-10

A very important trait for a woman. Modesty is acknowledging that you are a treasure, and protecting that treasure, body and mind.  God formed woman as a thing of beauty, and that beauty is to be shared with one man only. Don’t wear revealing or suggestive clothing. Many people talk about this, but only because it is important for a woman to understand. Not only are you causing temptation to sin for men around you, but you are giving away little bits of that treasure to anyone who looks at you. Also important though, is to act modestly. Excessive flirtation, vanity, low physical boundaries, and consistently seeking attention are some of the ways someone could act immodest. This causes you to devalue yourself and eventually others to do so too. You go from a priceless treasure to tarnished copper in the eyes of those who behold your immodest actions.

Submissiveness – 1 Timothy 2:11-12

This is a good quality for any woman. Submissiveness is readily and willingly following another’s lead as long as it glorifies God. Also, I believe it includes encouraging them. Encouragement is one of a woman’s strongest gifts. Submissiveness is not blind obedience. If someone is doing something wrong, we can speak out against it.  Again, submissiveness is readily and willingly following another’s lead as long as it glorifies God. A woman should obey her husband and her authorities and can choose not to obey other men, but I believe that submissiveness is encouraging and supporting leadership, not striving to hold it. 

               

Self-Control  – Titus 2: 5 (part one)

Self-Control is one of the traits mentioned in the Bible as desirable most often, for  men and women alike.  Self-Control is holding back ones normal (sinful) action or reaction in a circumstance and replacing it with a godly and helpful one . It includes many different areas, but for women, most often it is needed in the area of the tongue. Just as one of woman’s strongest strengths is encouragement, one of their worst flaws is lack of control over the tongue. Gossip, slander, and/or cutting words seem to come naturally to women, and it is one of the most unattractive things in the world to see. (These things can also be protrayed without words.) Great self-control is needed to halt a sinful tongue, but with God’s help, one can make one’s words “full of grace and seasoned with salt.”  Self control should be practiced in every area of one’s life though, not just one.

Purity – Titus 2:5 (part two)

Purity is a beautiful thing to see in a woman.  Purity is when something or someone is clean and unpolluted by surrounding filth.  There are two types of purity. The first is physical purity, untouched and innocent, this would be saving yourself for marriage. The second is purity of mind. Choosing not to involve yourself in the filth and sin of the world surrounding us, keeping our minds holy and set apart. I hope that all of you are choosing to stay physically pure, but I want to talk about purity of the mind. Purity is when you choose to set your mind on God rather than sin. If someone is talking about something dirty, or if a movie or book is portraying something sinful, by choosing to remove yourself from the influences of it and think upon holy and “pure” things. God.  Some may try to scorn you for your innocence, but purity cannot be scorned by filth.  Remain pure in mind.

There are many more aspects of godly women and good foundations, but these are a few main ones I wanted to cover. Proverbs 31 is a great place to look for more if you are interested in searching out this subject on your own.

Lastly, I wanted to mention a few foundations you should look for in a guy.

First and most important, HE MUST BE A BELIEVER! – 2 Corinthians 6:14– Relationships between a Christian and a non Christian can result in disaster. God is protecting us by setting this standard. 

He also should be Self- Controlled. Titus 2:6– He should not be unable to control his lust or anger. A guy who cannot do that is no man but a boy, and he could be a danger to you.

And He should be a leader, setting an example by doing good. Titus 2:7(a). – If you are dating a guy, you should be ready to consider marriage, and a husband should be the leader in both physical and spiritual life. If he cannot be the leader, he isn’t ready for marriage and thus not ready for dating.  Not being able to be a leader also includes him leading in the wrong direction. If a man is leading you away from God, then you should not follow. Remember, It is always God first.

Lastly, he should speak with integrity, seriousness and soundness of speech. Titus 2:7(b)-8 A man who is a leader and a believer should show these things in his life, especially when it comes to God. Integrity is a respect and “fear” of God and living his life following the Lord’s commands, Seriousness means that he would not take God’s commands lightly, and Soundness of Speech means that what he says comes straight from the truth.